Self Sabotage, or self defeating patterns of behavior are one of the most frustrating and destructive obstacles to come across. They are easy to identify in hindsight when you hear yourself muttering to yourself, “ Why did I do that?” or “I can’t believe I just did that!” Identifying those patterns is a great start, but it’s more important to identify how they are serving you and why they continue to live and grow.
One of the greatest moments of my life was realizing that I had two very deeply rooted and equally enormous beliefs. The first was that I could do anything I wanted to and I really mean anything. My ability to believe the impossible into life is tremendous and it’s been an ability that has supported me well. The second belief however, contradicted the first. See, I could do anything I wanted to and I really, really knew that, and I thought that was enough to compensate for the other. I was wrong. While I was confident I could DO anything I wanted to do, I just also happened to believe that I couldn’t do anything right. You can’t compensate for a wrong belief with a right one. All this does is create an escalating series of conflicts. The war doesn’t end, the battles just grow larger and so do the self defeating behaviors. The only solution is to surrender. NOT to your limiting beliefs, but instead to your empowering ones. Yes, I said surrender to the good guy. You’re the only one putting up the fight my friend. One more time – surrender to the good guy.
